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30 Self-Care Tips: How to Avoid Sickness, Burnout, and Exhaustion

“Remember, you are your own best investment. Invest in yourself and your lifestyle. Quality of life is a key component in finding joy and maintaining self-confidence.” ~Akiroq Brost

Do you ever sacrifice your own well-being to take care of others? If this sounds like you, chances are you are doing more harm than good.

Think about when you get on an airplane. What’s the first thing they tell you?

“In case of a loss of cabin pressure, please put your own oxygen mask on first and then assist your children or other passengers.”

They tell you this because if you don’t take care of yourself first, you will pass out and die! You can only help others and save lives after you meet your own needs—not just in an emergency scenario, but also in your everyday life. This is where self-care comes in.

I used to think it was selfish to prioritize my needs over the needs of others.

I thought showing love for others meant that I had to continuously give of myself and put their needs ahead of my own. As a result, I constantly felt drained, fatigued, and exhausted. I had given all of myself away and there was nothing left for me.

Not only was I working a highly stressful job in finance, I was also launching my personal training business, which required a combined eighty-five hours per week.

To add insult to injury, I was pushing my body to its physical limits in the gym seven days a week and sleeping only four to six hours per night. As if this wasn’t enough, I was also trying to balance having a boyfriend, a social life, a family, and a kitten.

At this stage in my life it was a common occurrence to collapse on top of my bed, clothes on, after a long day only to get up and repeat the cycle all over again. Eventually depression started to creep in, and I completely stopped doing anything for the sake of enjoyment; everything became goal oriented.

I forgot who I was. I forget how to be happy. I didn’t see the value in taking time for myself to recharge, get in touch with my inner being, and assess what I really wanted out of life.

I was solely focused on making money and pleasing others, trying to buy the love I didn’t deem myself worthy of on my own. It’s called the disease to please, and it will kill you if you let it.

I kept this pace up for a period of two years with no vacation and few days off until I had no choice but to pull the brakes.

My immune system suddenly shut down, and a barrage of illness and infection ensued. My goals of being the epitome of perfection and efficiency came to an abrupt halt. The disease to please had finally caught up with me.

First I developed a potentially life-threatening case of pneumonia. Immediately after that I developed a staph infection in my neck that was literally the size of a golf ball! I then became so lethargic that getting out of bed became a huge challenge.

This lasted for months.

I had never felt so low in my life, and I knew I had to take this unfortunate series of events as an opportunity to grow and learn; otherwise, it would all be for nothing!

This was a huge kick in the pants telling me to SLOW DOWN TIM, TAKE SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF!

Finally I had gotten the message, and I knew it was time to take a step back to re-evaluate my lifestyle choices, motivations, and habits.

How could I expect to help others when I wasn’t taking care of myself? I was putting myself last. And that helps no one!

I knew it was time to stop sacrificing myself and start practicing some serious self-care.

Stop Extreme Burnout and Exhaustion Before it Stops You

If you neglect yourself for an extended period of time you will experience extreme burnout. This is when you push yourself so hard that you literally can’t go on anymore and you just collapse.

If you are concerned about extreme burnout, here are some signs you might be at risk:

  • You are so completely exhausted by the end of the day that you collapse on the couch and fall asleep without realizing it.
  • By the end of the week you are so fatigued you can hardly get out of bed in the morning.
  • You sleep an inordinate amount of time during the weekend just to feel normal again.
  • No matter how much sleep you get, you wake up exhausted.
  • Caffeine is a necessity to wake up and get through the day.
  • You often work so hard you forget to eat.
  • You have extreme cravings for junk food and eat excessive amounts of sugar for energy.
  • You binge on Netflix and other distractions to avoid being alone with your thoughts.

If you find you are at risk of burnout, or just feel you want to take better care of yourself, self-care is the answer you are looking for.

What Exactly is Self-Care?

Initially I had a lot of misconceptions about self-care; I thought it was about being eternally happy all the time. Then I realized it’s actually impossible to be happy all the time and suffering is a necessary part of life that is required for personal growth.

True self-care strengthens and deepens our connection with ourselves so we can understand how to meet our needs met from a mental, emotional, and physical standpoint.

Self-care builds your connection with who you are at the core of your being so that when the tides of life get rough, you are anchored and don’t get swept away.

It helps you to not sweat the small stuff and prevents burnout and exhaustion. Ultimately, a self-care practice will allow you to understand yourself, find your passion and purpose, and take you on the path to live a fulfilled life.

It’s not easy to break bad habits, especially if you’ve spent years putting other people’s needs before your own. Here are some tips on how you can start to treat yo’self!

Self-Care Ideas for Mental Health

  • Relax and allow yourself to do nothing (no cellphones allowed!)
  • Meditate
  • Read an educational book with a focus on personal growth
  • Listen to an educational podcast (news is not included as educational)
  • Play with your pet
  • Cuddle your significant other
  • Do something that makes you smile
  • Create something artistic or play an instrument
  • Listen to music you love
  • Practice gratitude with a gratitude journal

Self-Care Ideas for Emotional Health

  • Forgive someone you have been holding a grudge against
  • Do something that’s scared you that you’ve always wanted to do
  • Focus on your own needs and goals instead of comparing yourself to others
  • Practice compassion for yourself
  • Take a break from social media
  • Allow yourself to feel your feelings instead of running from them or distracting yourself
  • Read a fictional book that lifts your spirits
  • Take a break from technology—unplug
  • Help someone and don’t expect anything in return
  • Practice positive affirmations (Example: You are enough just as you are right now in this moment.)
  • Write down a few things you appreciate yourself

Self-Care Ideas for Physical Health

  • Practice deep breathing
  • Move to music you love
  • Get adequate sleep
  • Lift weights
  • Walk
  • Play a sport
  • Go outside—get some sunlight on your skin
  • Try yoga or another mindful movement practice (also good for your mental health)
  • Eat healthfully (i.e.: fruits and veggies, unrefined foods)
  • Look in a mirror and love your body as it is right now, without judgment

How a Daily Self-Care Practice Changed My Life

Self-care saved me from extreme burnout. It wasn’t easy to slow down and find time for myself throughout the day, so instead, I get up early and devote one hour of time to myself.

I created a daily self-care routine that starts my day off on a positive note. This positivity bleeds over into other aspects of my life, and it’s been life-changing.

I used to be miserable getting up for work in the morning. Now getting up is enjoyable because I have something to look forward to like going to the gym, listening to a podcast, or meditating. I’ve noticed I’m generally happier and filled with a sense of gratitude for my blessings in life.

I also lost twelve pounds in eight weeks, even after reducing the amount of time I spent in the gym, by reducing daily stress triggers and practicing healthful eating. Previously, I’d put a lot of stress on my body with my lifestyle and excessive working out. This stress created a hormone response in the body that actually made me gain fat instead of losing it!

My big weight loss secret: stress reduction, moderate exercise, and mindful eating! It also helps that I’ve shifted my mindset; whereas I used to work out just to look hot, I now focus on my health and aging gracefully.

My gratitude practice is another important part of my daily self-care routine. By practicing gratitude I’m able to find more moments of joy in my daily life and I’m much more attentive to those I love. With mindfulness and meditation practice I experience less anxiety, stress, and negative thinking.

Self-care has allowed me to be aware of the constant neurotic thought patterns I’ve developed that hold me back and make me feel inadequate or like I don’t measure up. I can see more clearly how these patterns are essentially bad habits.

And just like any bad habit? They can be broken! It’s been a huge confidence booster.

Mindfulness helped me identify and overcome fear and self-doubt and work up the courage to start following my passion of writing and helping others after years of telling myself I wasn’t good enough.

And here we are today!

If you are like me and you take care of everyone in your life except for yourself, I implore you to try some of the thirty self-care tips I shared above. It really is of the utmost importance not only for your own health, but for the health and well-being of everyone you care about as well.

I know it’s hard to find time for self-care; that’s why I recommend scheduling one hour of time every single day just for you. Self-care might seem silly or frivolous, but it literally saved my life.

And it just might do the same for you!

About Timothy James

Timothy is a personal trainer and self-care expert focussed on using simple mindfulness strategies to build habits and achieve weight loss goals. Click here for his FREE self-care course and discover how to stop anxiety, kill stress, and eliminate exhaustion with simple mindfulness strategies you can use today! Follow him on Instagram here!

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Stephen Covey Quotes Reveal The Habits Of Highly Effective People

Stephen Covey was the author of the best selling book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.” The book has sold over 25,000,000 copies worldwide! His work has proven to help people around the world change their mindset, environment, and habits to create successful lives.

While he passed away at 79 years old in 2012, his work is still revered today.

Use these Stephen Covey quotes to start creating the habits to become highly successful in your life.

“Make time for planning; Wars are won in the general’s tent.” – Stephen Covey 

Planning is one of the biggest keys to creating a successful future for yourself. The most successful people in the world have a daily, weekly, and monthly plan to achieve their goals.

Do you have detailed plans?

If not, make it a point each night to spend five minutes and map out the next day. Plan when you will you wake up, exercise, invest in yourself and spend time with family.  

Stephen Covey Quotes Reveal The Habits Of Highly Effective People

“If we keep doing what we’re doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.” – Stephen Covey

So many people want to make positive changes but don’t want the struggles and hardships that come with change. But if you keep doing what you’ve always done you will keep getting what you’ve always got.

Don’t be afraid to change your life if you’re unhappy. Wake up earlier, challenge your body at the gym, and invest in your mind from reading new books. Remember, reading is to the mind what exercise is for the body.

 

“I am not a product of my circumstances, I am a product of my decisions.” – Stephen Covey

As Tony Robbins said, “Decisions shape your destiny.” Never underestimate the power of making a decision.

You are only one positive decision away from changing your life forever!

“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” – Stephen Covey

Focus on the hardest task to start the day. Not only will this knock out the hardest thing first it will create confidence and momentum early in the day. Quit being busy and start being productive with your time.

Stephen Covey Quotes Reveal The Habits Of Highly Effective People

“The only thing that endures over time is the Law of the Farm. You must prepare the ground, plant the seed, cultivate, and water it if you expect to reap the harvest.” – Stephen Covey Habits Of Highly Effective People

Success isn’t overnight. It might take six months for a book you read today to make sense and apply to your life. Or a new exercise habit won’t make you fit in a week.

Don’t judge each day by what you receive but by what you learn for the future. 

 

“A personal mission statement becomes the DNA for every other decision we make.” – Stephen Covey Quotes

Do you have a mission statement for your life?

If not, spend time creating one. Figure out what you stand for and make it clear who you are and what you are trying to achieve. This statement will be your guiding light in life.

 

“Every human has four endowments – self-awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom. The power to choose, to respond, to change.” – Stephen Covey

Never forget, you have the power to change your life at any moment. Don’t leave it up to anyone else to make things happen. Choose to believe in yourself to make it happen.

 

Stephen Covey Quotes Reveal The Habits Of Highly Effective People

“If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control – myself.” Stephen Covey Quotes Habits Of Highly Effective People

Lastly, remember that you are in control of your destiny. Once you create a mission statement, start planning your days, and take full responsibility you will control your future.

Use these Stephen Covey quotes to become the best version of yourself.

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In Life There Are Only Two Types of People: Those Who Follow and Those Who Lead

You Are The Captain Of Your Fate, The Boss Of Your Dreams, The King Of Your Goals.

THE CAPTAIN Motivational Speech

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In life there are only two types of people… Those who follow… and those who lead.

There are those who are in charge of their life,
 and those who believe they are at the mercy of circumstances.

There are those who READ stories of success and those who WRITE their own STORY!



There are those who WAIT and those who ATTACK LIFE head on.

 Those who wait for things to happen and those who MAKE THINGS HAPPEN!

 Those who wait for a good hand, and those who create magic with the cards they are dealt!

 There are those who are uncertain about their future and those who know where they are going!

There are passengers and then there are CAPTAINS!

 The captain is never unsure.
 The captain is DECISIVE!
 The captain knows what he wants, 
and he gets it!



The captain does not take orders.

 The captain doesn’t ask for directions… 
HE KNOWS WHERE HE IS GOING! 
HE KNOWS HIS PATH.



Are you the captain of your own life?



Do you know where you’re going? 

Your life, is your ship, and if you don’t take charge and direct it somewhere NOW, somewhere you MUST be in the future, you’ll never get there and you will forever be LOST.

YOU MUST TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE!

Set the standard for the rest of your life,
 and do not wait!
 Do it now!

 Make a plan! 

Whatever it is going to take, to ensure your life is on the right track. 

Whatever it is going to take, to ensure you end up EXACTLY where you want in life.

DECIDE with authority. 
DECIDE with conviction. 
DECIDE with certainty

!

You are the captain of your ship!
 You are in charge!

Don’t wait for life to come to you – you go to it!
 ATTACK IT HEAD ON!

No matter what storms come, you know you can handle them.
 You can handle ANY conditions.
 You know your direction!
 You are the CAPTAIN of your life!

No longer will you wait for things to happen… 
NOW, you MAKE THINGS HAPPEN!

No longer will you wait for life to deal you a good hand.
 You play the hands you have been dealt, and you WIN this game of life!

You are the captain! 
You are in charge! 
You will get exactly where you want in life… 
and you will not wait.

NOW IS YOUR TIME!

the captain

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